Yesterday I had to do one of those unpleasant things in life that I absolutely hate to do. I had to say goodbye to a friend, and attend his funeral. No one (in their right mind) enjoys attending an event such as this, and I am no exception to the rule. It was a good service and more or less a celebration of a life well lived, but it brought me down.
Nine short months from the time he was diagnosed to his death, not a whole lot of time for a man such as Lonnie Ray to say goodbye.
One thing about funerals, they are a slap in the face almost akin to a wet towel, they bring you back to “real life” and subtly remind you of how wonderful and precious life truly is. In a harsh way funerals make you appreciate what it is that you have.
Funerals are for the living … they are not for the dead.
On the way home I stopped at a local Walmart and went to the card section, just to pick out something for my Cup Cake, to tell her I loved her, that she was so special to me, and let her know that she was all Ace’s in my book.
I wanted to find her a card that had something catchy inside, and still, at the same time, say it all.
Something like: “You are something and someone very special. You really are. No one else in this entire world is like you (except possibly everyone else) and there are so many beautiful things about you. You’re a one of a kind treasure. Uniquely here in this space and time. You are here to shine in your own wonderful way, sharing your smile in the best way you can, and remembering all the while that a little light somewhere makes a brighter light somewhere else (try and figure out that one! Hah). You can and you do make a wonderful contribution to this world. You do, and don’t let anyone tell you differently.”
No music, no catchy little jingle just something that read:
“You have qualities within you that many people would love to have, and those who really and truly know you are so glad that they do. You have a big heart and a sensitive soul. You are gifted with thoughts and ways of seeing things that only special people know. You know that life doesn’t always play by the rules, but that in the long run, everything will work out.”
I just wanted to locate a suitable card for her to tell her:
“You understand that you and your actions are capable of turning anything around, and that joys once lost can always be found. There is a resolve and an inner reserve of strength in you that few ever get to see. You have so many treasures within, those you’re only beginning to deserve, and all the ones you’re already aware of. Never forget what a true treasure in life you are. That special person in the mirror may not always get to hear all the compliments you so sweetly deserve, that you are so worthy of, such an abundance of friendship, joy, and love.”
But I am a guy, and guys don’t do that.
So I found a blank card with some puppies on it and inside I wrote … “I am so glad you are my special friend.”
As my companion Pam is fond of saying …. Life Is Good. Have a great weekend, call someone you have not talked to in a long time, and tell them they are special. There just might not be time for it later on.